Friday, January 26, 2018
"The Disappointments I Traded For A Good Lesson..."
I'm almost immune to disappointments. They no longer leave me astounded. I'll take their worth for what they are: lessons learned!
I used to roll my eyes, shrug my shoulders and say to people," Who do you think you are?" at the back of my head. Good thing that I didn't have the audacity to tell it to their faces how disappointing and nasty their behaviors are. Come to think about it, it is I, myself who let myself down.
Experts say on personal relationships that what you despise about somebody else maybe a reflection of an internal lack of which you are critical towards another person or even to a group of people.
When I was still married to my ex-husband, I and his mom didn't get along. She was so clingy to the point that hanging out in her house whenever we visit was a kind of torture to me. I tried to be civil and courteous when she was around. My ex-husband is a "mama's boy" and don't know boundaries, never had the backbone or a vein to address what was so obvious to be a problem.There was this huge disappointment hovering over my head.
Fifteen years later, I found myself and my young boys bound for Texas in 2000. In retrospect, for the first few years of being a divorced woman, I was very resentful and unforgiving. I blamed myself for not doing more to have saved our marriage; blamed my ex-mother-in-law for being the intrusion and my ex-husband for committing numerous adultery. And worst, my children will grow up without the love and authority of a father. And I felt like a loser for not keeping my marriage, my vows under God's commandment. I thought that I will be paying retribution for the rest of my life for a failed marriage.For I believe that "What God had joined together, let no man put asunder." Matthew 19:6
Little that I know, that things happen for the best reasons.The lessons I learned from it is that: "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers; for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?
To those young Christian men and women who are dating non-believers, save yourself from a lot of heartaches, and time-consuming legal custody fights and money by committing to the above scripture.
I used to think that I could convert my ex-husband to become a Christian. I prayed without ceasing till finally, he did accept Christ as his personal Savior and Lord before marrying her third wife. That only tells us that there is no prayer that God does not answer. It may take several years before your prayers come to pass, but he does answer prayers on His perfect timing. "His Word will never return Void..."
I came out stronger as a person, single mother, and as a believer through the years. You must put your faith on His promises which are only yes and Amen. I no longer ask God why things happen. Instead, I ask Him what shall I do now with this situation, Lord?
Also in Zechariah 4:6 says: The word of the Lord unto Zechariah, This is the word of the Lord unto Zerubbabel, Not by might, nor by power, but my spirit, saith the Lord of hosts.